The obvious advice is to spend less time online. But let's be honest: going offline isn't realistic for everyone. And even IRL relationships can trigger the same emotional disturbances.
So in 2019 at the age of 70, my libido was MIA. We came across some daily photo therapy patches and gave them a try. A few weeks later, I woke up and asked hubs, "Where's the batteries?"
Love this article, Ashley! Cows clit research? Seriously. I almost pecked "Bull Shit" 🤣😂🤣
Regardless of age, body before business. Period. When Mama Peggy was still with us, up until 2022, as I was leaving the house to compete in a poker tournament, she'd say, "Always remember to get up and go hug a tree."
Your post is such a powerful reminder about owning our voices and experiences unapologetically. The stigma around women expressing their desires or celebrating their sexuality is outdated, and your honesty is refreshing. Thanks for saying what so many are thinking—bravery like this is how change happens. 💪🔥
Thank you for taking the time to share this—it means more than you know. Writing honestly can feel vulnerable at times, but knowing it resonates with someone makes it all worth it. Keep being amazing! ❤️
How stupid can someone be to criticize you for talking about orgasms? It’s a fascinating topic, and of course a very important part of all our lives. The thought police will never defeat us.
Sometimes I wonder if they find it threatening. I'm not naive to the conditioning around human sexuality, how it stigmatized and sometimes demonized. I tend to gravitate towards feeling compassion for those who find something natural and human to be repulsive; they are enslaved to a doctrine that keeps them controlled by and disconnected from them selves. But you are right!! it's fascinating, VERY important and a conversation that the thought police will never be able to end. Especially because on some level, they are participating in it :)
We must actively call out our narratives that keep us in survival mode. It's about reclaiming your sense of calm and control—not by ignoring what's happening around you but by creating a foundation within yourself to handle it.
I resonated with this in particular but loved the entire piece!
So glad! And yes, cleaning up our thinking and feelings on what’s going on gives us agency.
Sometimes I have to remind myself (and my nervous system) it’s not necessarily about being calm, but being in choice. “Observe your reaction; choose your response”
What types of practices do you have that help you examine your stories?
So in 2019 at the age of 70, my libido was MIA. We came across some daily photo therapy patches and gave them a try. A few weeks later, I woke up and asked hubs, "Where's the batteries?"
Love this article, Ashley! Cows clit research? Seriously. I almost pecked "Bull Shit" 🤣😂🤣
Regardless of age, body before business. Period. When Mama Peggy was still with us, up until 2022, as I was leaving the house to compete in a poker tournament, she'd say, "Always remember to get up and go hug a tree."
Your post is such a powerful reminder about owning our voices and experiences unapologetically. The stigma around women expressing their desires or celebrating their sexuality is outdated, and your honesty is refreshing. Thanks for saying what so many are thinking—bravery like this is how change happens. 💪🔥
Waking up to comments like this one reinvigorates my desire to continue writing honestly— regardless of outside criticism and opinion.
Thank you ❤️
Thank you for taking the time to share this—it means more than you know. Writing honestly can feel vulnerable at times, but knowing it resonates with someone makes it all worth it. Keep being amazing! ❤️
Wow! Sounds like you had quite the Substack experience last week.
It was fast and furious… Good reminder not to engage while also remembering how to keep our sanity while online and with others ❤️
And so we keep on writing anyways …otherwise, you're just another narcissist with a word processor, thinking you’re a literary genius.
100%
How stupid can someone be to criticize you for talking about orgasms? It’s a fascinating topic, and of course a very important part of all our lives. The thought police will never defeat us.
Sometimes I wonder if they find it threatening. I'm not naive to the conditioning around human sexuality, how it stigmatized and sometimes demonized. I tend to gravitate towards feeling compassion for those who find something natural and human to be repulsive; they are enslaved to a doctrine that keeps them controlled by and disconnected from them selves. But you are right!! it's fascinating, VERY important and a conversation that the thought police will never be able to end. Especially because on some level, they are participating in it :)
I think ‘they’ absolutely find it threatening. But I’m going to keep having these sorts of conversations, in every way that I can.
Yes, girl!!! I’m with you ❤️💥🪩
We must actively call out our narratives that keep us in survival mode. It's about reclaiming your sense of calm and control—not by ignoring what's happening around you but by creating a foundation within yourself to handle it.
I resonated with this in particular but loved the entire piece!
So glad! And yes, cleaning up our thinking and feelings on what’s going on gives us agency.
Sometimes I have to remind myself (and my nervous system) it’s not necessarily about being calm, but being in choice. “Observe your reaction; choose your response”
What types of practices do you have that help you examine your stories?