That guy was right: Most of the time people don't want things pushed up the wazoo. Even people who enjoy it once in a while. I would put the figure much higher than 3%, but still. What bothers me more than misinformation in porn (no, they're not hoping a stranger will come by and "give them a cream pie") is the spectacularly misogynist manner in which the industry's leaders have chosen to frame it. Descriptions of the women are almost never words like "woman," "lover" or "girl": They are "sluts" and "whores," and they don't even fuck. They are "bred." This is Nazi shit.
I agree with you and the guy from this post; the porn industry has painted human sexuality and pleasure -especially as it pertains to women - in violence, misogyny and degradation. Thankfully there is ethical porn for those who enjoy watching it from the female lens. I'm reminded of a post I wrote called 'An Amateur' about my personal experience of porn. Maybe one of these days I'll pull it out from behind the paywall!
I love this. I have also found that mentioning that I write about sex/dating is an open invitation for men to start a conversation that often begins, "Can I ask you something?" as if a) I have suddenly turned into their free therapist and b) that I have nothing better to do than listen to them. Often, however, these conversations turn into a great article, such as this, so thank you for sharing.
That guy was right: Most of the time people don't want things pushed up the wazoo. Even people who enjoy it once in a while. I would put the figure much higher than 3%, but still. What bothers me more than misinformation in porn (no, they're not hoping a stranger will come by and "give them a cream pie") is the spectacularly misogynist manner in which the industry's leaders have chosen to frame it. Descriptions of the women are almost never words like "woman," "lover" or "girl": They are "sluts" and "whores," and they don't even fuck. They are "bred." This is Nazi shit.
I agree with you and the guy from this post; the porn industry has painted human sexuality and pleasure -especially as it pertains to women - in violence, misogyny and degradation. Thankfully there is ethical porn for those who enjoy watching it from the female lens. I'm reminded of a post I wrote called 'An Amateur' about my personal experience of porn. Maybe one of these days I'll pull it out from behind the paywall!
Great article.
I'm so glad you enjoyed it Liza!!! It's a favorite of mine :)
Very funny.
Thank you David!
I love this. I have also found that mentioning that I write about sex/dating is an open invitation for men to start a conversation that often begins, "Can I ask you something?" as if a) I have suddenly turned into their free therapist and b) that I have nothing better to do than listen to them. Often, however, these conversations turn into a great article, such as this, so thank you for sharing.
Thank you for reading Suzanne!! And yes, I guess it comes with the territory ;)
Laugh out loud funny while all very true
Thank you Suzanne!!! This means A LOT coming from you 🥰🥰🥰