You're right. There's a huge gulf in expectations between friendship and dating — and probably should be. More is at stake. Some people (guys, but also women) want to split the difference — the emotional and other enticements of dating with the lack of accountability of a (casual) friendship. Hence, "Netflix and chill," "hanging out," and other permutations of modern romance.
Best line in your essay: "And by the way, I AM the hot friend…"
I also think there's a desire maybe to be part of a fantasy you (I mean men generally) create around a person you want to know in some magical carnal way and then maybe you've played yourself into being faced with just a normal, true to life person who wants to be themselves and live their life in a manner that's more than just a sex doll. I blame modern internet porn for most of the shortcomings I've witnessed....just my opinion.
You're right. There's a huge gulf in expectations between friendship and dating — and probably should be. More is at stake. Some people (guys, but also women) want to split the difference — the emotional and other enticements of dating with the lack of accountability of a (casual) friendship. Hence, "Netflix and chill," "hanging out," and other permutations of modern romance.
Best line in your essay: "And by the way, I AM the hot friend…"
I also think there's a desire maybe to be part of a fantasy you (I mean men generally) create around a person you want to know in some magical carnal way and then maybe you've played yourself into being faced with just a normal, true to life person who wants to be themselves and live their life in a manner that's more than just a sex doll. I blame modern internet porn for most of the shortcomings I've witnessed....just my opinion.
Basically me: "Literally NO ONE says I’m kind. Unless you consider being clear as being kind." 😅
It’s a vibe 😂
Literally never met anyone hotter!🥰